So my birthday’s coming up soon and I’m turning 20 which is pretty exciting but I can’t lie and say that I’m not afraid. I think we all get that anxious feeling which is normal as we grow older we start having a change of thoughts and feelings and sometimes you feel like you don’t know what you want. However, as hard as it was for me to deal with my teen years I’m only hoping it gets easier from here. But I’m honestly so grateful to have learned so many important things at such a young age that many people have a hard time learning when they’re older.
Like, not caring about what others perceive of me because at the end of the day it’s my life and I live by my own choices. I want to be happy with the way I look, with the way I talk, with the way I feel. Other people’s opinions don’t matter and I don’t have to prove anything to anyone if I choose not to. That’s the first thing I learned. The second thing I learned is that my needs are just as important as others. I feel like I’ve really neglected myself over the years and I’ve always done things for other people and I never really payed any attention to myself. And it’s been awful, it started like that and it turned into a cycle of self hate which was too much to handle. I guess I didn’t treat myself as a priority when I should’ve. I’ve made my mistakes and now I know that I deserve better and that I should be treated as such. But, it’s okay I’m always learning and I’m still growing and i know that it’ll only get better from here.
I also learned how to have faith in myself even through the most difficult times when I felt like I couldn’t make it. Growing up especially during my early teens I was always lacking support, I never felt seen or heard. But I know it won’t always be that way. I’m grateful that I got to pick myself up every time I broke, I’m grateful that I’ve carried so much strength during some of my lowest moments in life. I became the support that I needed, I became the motivation I needed and that’s what I want to take in when I’m entering my twenties. In my twenties I want to focus on myself and give myself everything that I desire. This isn’t just for me but whether you’re in your early twenties or your late twenties I just hope you know that this is your time and it’s not too late. It’s not too late for you to do what brings you joy and happiness and don’t allow people’s opinions be the factor of that. You still have time, and you’re capable of it. But it’s also okay to not have it all figured out, it’s okay that some of the goals you’re trying to reach are taking a bit more time. Its okay to take breaks every now and then for your mental health. It’s really okay please understand that. Nothing will ruin your twenties more than stressing yourself out thinking that you should have it all together. I know that I have so many things that I’m looking forward to, I can’t wait to visit new places, meet new people, make some of the best memories and just live my best life. Although I know it’s tough right now because of the pandemic and all but it’s so important to remember that we still have time. We still have time and it will always get better keep that in mind.
With all the crazy things that’s happening in our world it can be hard to remain hopeful and positive. We all go through difficult problems and feel mentally drained sometimes. But, as hard as things may seem we always have to keep our head up. Hope is a beautiful thing and you’ll start to see how everything will work out for you because you let yourself believe that they will. One thing that definitely helps for me and for so many people is writing down affirmations. Reading them out loud daily and repetitively thinking about them you will believe them and they will happen to you. The power is in you and in your mind and whatever you tell yourself will start happening.
Another thing that can help you be more positive is definitely changing your routine and switching things up. Maybe start working out, practice a new hobby, expand your knowledge by reading more? anything but staying the same. I know we all love doing nothing and just sit on our phones scroll through social media or watch netflix. But, that doesn’t really do anything to our mental health except damage it. You see people living their best lives and it makes you question your own. You’re not behind in life please remember that. I know social media has driven people into thinking they’re failures when their life hasn’t even begun yet. So try to avoid using your phone because it really affects your mental health and plays with your head.
Everything will happen for you, believe it. You will receive everything you wish for and you’ll be so happy when it happens. One thing i love about being optimistic and positive is having something to look forward to. Like my life right now may not be perfect, but that doesn’t mean it won’t change. That doesn’t mean that i won’t get the things i want from life. One quote that definitely changed my way of thinking was one that i found on pinterest that said “your mind is a powerful thing. When you fill it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change.” Don’t just be kind to others, be kind to yourself. Feed your mind love, whatever you tell yourself you’ll believe it so say some good things about yourself. But take your time, I know it’s a struggle to stay positive but you’ll eventually get there.
I think one of the best things we can experience and feel in life are dreams. A life filled with dreams and aspirations can make us feel inspired and encouraged. Dreams help us move in life and have something to look forward to. I think it’s the most beautiful thing to see people going after their dreams and being passionate about achieving them. Everyone should be doing something that they love, something that fulfills them. I know it’s common to play it safe because you’re scared it’s okay we all get scared especially when we see new opportunities coming to us.
Everyone is always afraid of messing up and failing but you shouldn’t. It’s normal to make mistakes and not get it right the first time it doesn’t make you a loser. You’re putting in the effort and that’s the important part don’t ever underestimate the potential that you have. It’s there you, just have to have faith in yourself, and acknowledge the fact that you are gifted. We all are, we all bring special gifts into this world and you should be using it. Don’t be afraid of a few setbacks, just keep trying and don’t ever think about anyone else’s opinion but your own. People who don’t support you are irrelevant, you are your biggest supporter. Believing in yourself can be life changing, once have faith in yourself and you’re confident nothing and no one can stop you. You are powerful and you must believe that. We always daydream about a life we wish were living but it’s possible to turn it into reality. Nothing can be too big or too small don’t ever limit yourself. Don’t give up on yourself if you’re not seeing results everything will eventually work out in your favor.
Time is the most valuable thing you have, so please don’t waste it on fear. You can shine, you can do all the wonderful things that you dream of. This is your life and you make your own decisions. Take a few risks, don’t start having self doubt or start questioning your abilities because you are talented and you do deserve any great opportunity that comes your way. You can do anything you put your mind to. Whether you want to move to another country, or change your major or write a book or whatever your heart desires do it. Go for it, you deserve to live the life that you want. Don’t be afraid of messing up, just keep trying and trying until you get to where you want to be. Discipline yourself, but take breaks every now and then. You might face a few obstacles here and there but you’ll eventually reach your destination. Remember that everything is in your power, and you have the power to change your whole life.
One of the best things to experience in life is love. To meet someone and instantly connect with them can truly feel so magical. It’s such a beautiful feeling to fall in love with someone and to be loved. We all want it, we all dream of it but is it easy to find? no. I don’t think many people understand how rare it is to be with someone who puts so much effort into making you happy and making you feel loved and appreciated. It does get taken for granted sometimes because you also have to understand that not everyone deserves you or your time. Don’t let anyone try to take advantage of you when all you’re trying to do is love and care for them. I know that everyone went through those relationships where you felt broken and hurt and not loved how you should’ve been loved. That doesn’t mean you’re hard to love or that you’re difficult you just haven’t met that right person yet. Love is one of the most wonderful things you could ever have in life and we should never give up on that. To love and to be loved is so special and to have someone that loves the same way that you love is so beautiful. You should have hope because there is someone out there waiting for you who will love you and make you feel so special and treat you like the princess that you truly are. I would also like to say is that having high standards does not make you a brat or make you ‘spoiled’ it means that you know your worth and you’re not gonna get involved with just anybody. He or she needs to acknowledge how amazing and incredible you are and you shouldn’t settle for anything else but that. They should be showering you with love, affection, support, positivity and happiness. Your partner should be your lover and your friend. You need someone that encourages you, that supports you, someone that brings out the better version of you and someone that can make your days feel brighter when they get dark. This is coming from a 19 year old girl with no relationship experience. I’ve never had a boyfriend, I’ve never even had a first kiss was it something I was ashamed of? no. You don’t have to start dating when you’re a teenager it’s okay to be grown and to not have had any experiences. I’m a late bloomer and it’s okay everyone has different experiences there are no rules to this I don’t know who I’ll be with in the future but I just know that I’ll meet the perfect man who will make me feel like I’m the only girl in the world. Like the saying that everyone uses ‘all good things take time’ it’s true! so be patient don’t rush into anything and don’t force anything. Love has to feel natural and the energy needs to be reciprocated otherwise then you’re wasting your time over someone who doesn’t see how amazing you are. You’ll find your other half someday and you’re gonna be ready when that time comes. To quote one of my favorite youtubers ever Amber Scholl “there’s someone staring at the stars wishing for you too.” Someone will choose you and it’s gonna happen when you least expect it. You will find your home in someone and you will live happily ever after just like every good fairytale.
I think with how our society is today we get so caught up in looking and comparing ourselves to other people that we forget about ourselves. We look at people on social media and imagine what it would be like to be them and daydream about it constantly. That’s the biggest mistake anyone could ever make, is not creating the person you want to be, not being the dream girl you always had the potential of being. You should be taking care of yourself, buying the best makeup, wearing the best clothes, taking care of your skin and body. It’s what you deserve. Include a lot of self care in your daily routine, it’s the closest thing to feeling angelic. Just by applying lip gloss or meditating or even writing down in your journal it could help you feel more soft and delicate inside. You should feel like you’re the most ethereal human being on the planet. It’s so important to remember that we’re all special and different in our own way. Comparison is the most toxic thing you could ever do to yourself because you shouldn’t feel like you’re not good enough or pretty enough because you are. It will take time but eventually you’ll realize how beautiful and unique you are. You’ll see the things other people saw in you that you didn’t notice before. Some of them may be your imperfections but that’s okay because we all have them. Some of your biggest insecurities can be seen as the prettiest things of all and that’s what beauty should feel like.