So my birthday’s coming up soon and I’m turning 20 which is pretty exciting but I can’t lie and say that I’m not afraid. I think we all get that anxious feeling which is normal as we grow older we start having a change of thoughts and feelings and sometimes you feel like you don’t know what you want. However, as hard as it was for me to deal with my teen years I’m only hoping it gets easier from here. But I’m honestly so grateful to have learned so many important things at such a young age that many people have a hard time learning when they’re older.
Like, not caring about what others perceive of me because at the end of the day it’s my life and I live by my own choices. I want to be happy with the way I look, with the way I talk, with the way I feel. Other people’s opinions don’t matter and I don’t have to prove anything to anyone if I choose not to. That’s the first thing I learned. The second thing I learned is that my needs are just as important as others. I feel like I’ve really neglected myself over the years and I’ve always done things for other people and I never really payed any attention to myself. And it’s been awful, it started like that and it turned into a cycle of self hate which was too much to handle. I guess I didn’t treat myself as a priority when I should’ve. I’ve made my mistakes and now I know that I deserve better and that I should be treated as such. But, it’s okay I’m always learning and I’m still growing and i know that it’ll only get better from here.
I also learned how to have faith in myself even through the most difficult times when I felt like I couldn’t make it. Growing up especially during my early teens I was always lacking support, I never felt seen or heard. But I know it won’t always be that way. I’m grateful that I got to pick myself up every time I broke, I’m grateful that I’ve carried so much strength during some of my lowest moments in life. I became the support that I needed, I became the motivation I needed and that’s what I want to take in when I’m entering my twenties. In my twenties I want to focus on myself and give myself everything that I desire. This isn’t just for me but whether you’re in your early twenties or your late twenties I just hope you know that this is your time and it’s not too late. It’s not too late for you to do what brings you joy and happiness and don’t allow people’s opinions be the factor of that. You still have time, and you’re capable of it. But it’s also okay to not have it all figured out, it’s okay that some of the goals you’re trying to reach are taking a bit more time. Its okay to take breaks every now and then for your mental health. It’s really okay please understand that. Nothing will ruin your twenties more than stressing yourself out thinking that you should have it all together. I know that I have so many things that I’m looking forward to, I can’t wait to visit new places, meet new people, make some of the best memories and just live my best life. Although I know it’s tough right now because of the pandemic and all but it’s so important to remember that we still have time. We still have time and it will always get better keep that in mind.
With all the crazy things that’s happening in our world it can be hard to remain hopeful and positive. We all go through difficult problems and feel mentally drained sometimes. But, as hard as things may seem we always have to keep our head up. Hope is a beautiful thing and you’ll start to see how everything will work out for you because you let yourself believe that they will. One thing that definitely helps for me and for so many people is writing down affirmations. Reading them out loud daily and repetitively thinking about them you will believe them and they will happen to you. The power is in you and in your mind and whatever you tell yourself will start happening.
Another thing that can help you be more positive is definitely changing your routine and switching things up. Maybe start working out, practice a new hobby, expand your knowledge by reading more? anything but staying the same. I know we all love doing nothing and just sit on our phones scroll through social media or watch netflix. But, that doesn’t really do anything to our mental health except damage it. You see people living their best lives and it makes you question your own. You’re not behind in life please remember that. I know social media has driven people into thinking they’re failures when their life hasn’t even begun yet. So try to avoid using your phone because it really affects your mental health and plays with your head.
Everything will happen for you, believe it. You will receive everything you wish for and you’ll be so happy when it happens. One thing i love about being optimistic and positive is having something to look forward to. Like my life right now may not be perfect, but that doesn’t mean it won’t change. That doesn’t mean that i won’t get the things i want from life. One quote that definitely changed my way of thinking was one that i found on pinterest that said “your mind is a powerful thing. When you fill it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change.” Don’t just be kind to others, be kind to yourself. Feed your mind love, whatever you tell yourself you’ll believe it so say some good things about yourself. But take your time, I know it’s a struggle to stay positive but you’ll eventually get there.
I think one of the best things we can experience and feel in life are dreams. A life filled with dreams and aspirations can make us feel inspired and encouraged. Dreams help us move in life and have something to look forward to. I think it’s the most beautiful thing to see people going after their dreams and being passionate about achieving them. Everyone should be doing something that they love, something that fulfills them. I know it’s common to play it safe because you’re scared it’s okay we all get scared especially when we see new opportunities coming to us.
Everyone is always afraid of messing up and failing but you shouldn’t. It’s normal to make mistakes and not get it right the first time it doesn’t make you a loser. You’re putting in the effort and that’s the important part don’t ever underestimate the potential that you have. It’s there you, just have to have faith in yourself, and acknowledge the fact that you are gifted. We all are, we all bring special gifts into this world and you should be using it. Don’t be afraid of a few setbacks, just keep trying and don’t ever think about anyone else’s opinion but your own. People who don’t support you are irrelevant, you are your biggest supporter. Believing in yourself can be life changing, once have faith in yourself and you’re confident nothing and no one can stop you. You are powerful and you must believe that. We always daydream about a life we wish were living but it’s possible to turn it into reality. Nothing can be too big or too small don’t ever limit yourself. Don’t give up on yourself if you’re not seeing results everything will eventually work out in your favor.
Time is the most valuable thing you have, so please don’t waste it on fear. You can shine, you can do all the wonderful things that you dream of. This is your life and you make your own decisions. Take a few risks, don’t start having self doubt or start questioning your abilities because you are talented and you do deserve any great opportunity that comes your way. You can do anything you put your mind to. Whether you want to move to another country, or change your major or write a book or whatever your heart desires do it. Go for it, you deserve to live the life that you want. Don’t be afraid of messing up, just keep trying and trying until you get to where you want to be. Discipline yourself, but take breaks every now and then. You might face a few obstacles here and there but you’ll eventually reach your destination. Remember that everything is in your power, and you have the power to change your whole life.