How hollywood demonizes femininity: the girly girl trope

It’s about time someone’s mentioned it right? For years Hollywood movies and tv shows have always portrayed femininity in a bad form. It’s strange to think that a specific color and style can irritate many people and have them convinced that it looks ridiculous right? The thought behind being girly and feminine isn’t an issue what’s an issue is how it’s illustrated in the media.



Gender stereotypes have ruled for decades, there were always things that were made for men and things that were made for women. Like the color pink, wearing makeup, wearing dresses and skirts etc. This is what is considered feminine and what many people believed is how all women should be. Obviously not every woman wants to wear makeup or high heels or ball gowns but that doesn’t mean it’s a bad thing to like all of those things. There’s really nothing wrong with loving pink and being girly and feminine. The ‘girly girl’ trope was always made to bring down women and portrayed them as shallow, dense and dumb. Then comes the ‘not like the other girls’ trope that basically means the complete opposite of being feminine like not dressing up or getting your hair and makeup done and liking more ‘masculine’ things.


Let’s be honest this really has to do with internalized misogyny. Like why would these women bring down other other who love being feminine just to try and be more ‘different.’ These girls particularly just want some form of male validation, and it’s honestly very sad how they want to mock feminine women in order to get men to like them. They will often get praised by men because they’re being misogynistic and prejudice towards other women. I don’t really think they’re the ones to blame, since a lot of the movies we’ve seen, the main girl (that usually gets the guy) comes off as basic and doesn’t like to have a lot of friends who are girls because she likes to feel like ‘one of the guys’. And in those same movies they usually turn the girly girl to be seen as ‘high maintenance’ or ‘shallow’ and just focuses on her looks instead of showing that she can also be smart, wise and intellectual. This mentality is so bizarre it’s really engraved into their heads if we’re being honest. And it’s really a shame how being girly is often seen as a weakness or seen as superficial, but it’s not true there’s nothing wrong with being feminine and delicate and you’re not forcing a gender stereotype.

Take Elle Woods for example, one of my favorite characters of all time and an iconic one in my opinion. This movie is perfect because it proves that feminine women are also powerful and intelligent and that they’re more than just pretty girls who love wearing pink and dressing up. This movie also used a blonde girl from Beverly Hills now normally people would expect her to be shallow and mean but she’s hardworking and career driven. She was always herself and she didn’t let anyone try to change her. And that’s what everyone should remember.


Daphne Blake is also a good role model, I love seeing a girly girl who’s smart and can also kick ass! I feel like every girl growing up who loved fashion loved daphne not only did she have great style but she could also solve crimes!


Another one of my favorites Miss Sharpay Evans! A career driven, hard working go- getter who took no for an answer. I never understood why she was the villain when all she did was go for the big opportunities and go for the spotlight that she wanted and that she worked hard for. Not to mention the way she was getting Troy so many opportunities and scholarships and he still went for Gabriella?! She deserved better. Once again a mediocre man will still pick a basic girl over the fancy one because she’s considered more ‘simple’ it’s ridiculous.


I want every girl to understand that it’s really okay to be into the girly princess type aesthetic, there’s literally nothing wrong with that. Liking pink and being all feminine isn’t a weakness and it doesn’t make you look dumb. And if you’re a woman who’s not into those certain things, then that’s okay too it’s not strange but what’s strange is trying so hard to be different and dragging other women for liking those things. We can all agree that we’re women and we should just feel free to like whatever we want to like without being judged or ridiculed for it. Femininity is what you make of it, it’s in us all, you’re not less of a woman if you don’t wear makeup or if you don’t dress the same way that other women do.

xoxo, L 💋

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Goodbye to my teens: The start of a new era

So my birthday’s coming up soon and I’m turning 20 which is pretty exciting but I can’t lie and say that I’m not afraid. I think we all get that anxious feeling which is normal as we grow older we start having a change of thoughts and feelings and sometimes you feel like you don’t know what you want. However, as hard as it was for me to deal with my teen years I’m only hoping it gets easier from here. But I’m honestly so grateful to have learned so many important things at such a young age that many people have a hard time learning when they’re older.


Like, not caring about what others perceive of me because at the end of the day it’s my life and I live by my own choices. I want to be happy with the way I look, with the way I talk, with the way I feel. Other people’s opinions don’t matter and I don’t have to prove anything to anyone if I choose not to. That’s the first thing I learned. The second thing I learned is that my needs are just as important as others. I feel like I’ve really neglected myself over the years and I’ve always done things for other people and I never really payed any attention to myself. And it’s been awful, it started like that and it turned into a cycle of self hate which was too much to handle. I guess I didn’t treat myself as a priority when I should’ve. I’ve made my mistakes and now I know that I deserve better and that I should be treated as such. But, it’s okay I’m always learning and I’m still growing and i know that it’ll only get better from here.

I also learned how to have faith in myself even through the most difficult times when I felt like I couldn’t make it. Growing up especially during my early teens I was always lacking support, I never felt seen or heard. But I know it won’t always be that way. I’m grateful that I got to pick myself up every time I broke, I’m grateful that I’ve carried so much strength during some of my lowest moments in life. I became the support that I needed, I became the motivation I needed and that’s what I want to take in when I’m entering my twenties. In my twenties I want to focus on myself and give myself everything that I desire. This isn’t just for me but whether you’re in your early twenties or your late twenties I just hope you know that this is your time and it’s not too late. It’s not too late for you to do what brings you joy and happiness and don’t allow people’s opinions be the factor of that. You still have time, and you’re capable of it. But it’s also okay to not have it all figured out, it’s okay that some of the goals you’re trying to reach are taking a bit more time. Its okay to take breaks every now and then for your mental health. It’s really okay please understand that. Nothing will ruin your twenties more than stressing yourself out thinking that you should have it all together. I know that I have so many things that I’m looking forward to, I can’t wait to visit new places, meet new people, make some of the best memories and just live my best life. Although I know it’s tough right now because of the pandemic and all but it’s so important to remember that we still have time. We still have time and it will always get better keep that in mind.


xoxo, L 💋

I’M NO BEAUTY QUEEN I’M JUST BEAUTIFUL ME

What is beauty? What does it mean to be beautiful or feel beautiful? that’s something I’ve always thought about. I’ve always wanted to know what it meant or what it felt like and I think as I’m growing up I’m starting to understand it a little bit more. You see, beauty to me isn’t just your outer self it’s more about your inner self. Anybody can look so stunning on the outside but you see how ugly they become by the way they treat others. To me, beautiful people are gentle, tender, kind and compassionate.


Audrey Hepburn has always been an inspiration to me when it came to beauty, elegance and grace. I loved her charm and I’ve always wished to be more like her. I loved the way she carried herself and the way she made people’s heads turn around whenever she was in the room. It made me upset when I’ve seen in one of her interviews that she didn’t think she was all that pretty and that she didn’t like her body and some of her face features. I thought to myself if this woman whom i adored didn’t think or feel that she was beautiful how could i? She wished she had some curves to her body and i wish i didn’t have any. It’s strange when you think about beauty. A common phrase i remembered hearing over and over again was “beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” I’ll be honest, that quote really stuck with me because it’s true. How many times have we compared ourselves to other people and then our friends would go and say something like ‘oh she’s not that pretty’ or ‘she only looks good because of her makeup.’ I can guarantee that almost everyone has felt that way before and don’t worry it’s something we’ve all done to cope with our insecurities.

But, let me tell you this real beauty is within. When you make the people around you feel good, when you’re kind and caring and loving that’s what’s really beautiful. You might not feel it, you might not know what others perceive of you but you’ll start to notice how your treatment affects others. Reassurance is a beautiful a thing and reminding people of how loved and how important they are to exist is incredible. It doesn’t just make the other person feel better but it also makes you feel better too. Because we often see what others don’t, I don’t know how I look from another person’s point of view; none of us do until we get told by other people. With that being said, you never really notice the unique qualities you have until someone points them out. Isn’t that amazing? like you could’ve complained about your hair or your style or your body and then you come to a realization that it’s what makes you different and that’s good. Just by being yourself unapologetically makes you beautiful and all your cute little flaws and all your qualities that you hate the most are what makes you, you and that’s how you stand out. So beauty to me is just being yourself, but also being kind. So many of us struggle with our insecurities and have our own battles, we might or might not understand other people’s circumstances so it’s always better to be kind. Especially when it comes to you, and the things you’re going through be gentle with yourself i know it’s hard but please remember that you are enough and that you are beautiful. And, remember when there’s beauty in the inside beauty will radiate from the outside.

xoxo, L💋

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How to maintain your well-being and remain positive:

With all the crazy things that’s happening in our world it can be hard to remain hopeful and positive. We all go through difficult problems and feel mentally drained sometimes. But, as hard as things may seem we always have to keep our head up. Hope is a beautiful thing and you’ll start to see how everything will work out for you because you let yourself believe that they will. One thing that definitely helps for me and for so many people is writing down affirmations. Reading them out loud daily and repetitively thinking about them you will believe them and they will happen to you. The power is in you and in your mind and whatever you tell yourself will start happening.


Another thing that can help you be more positive is definitely changing your routine and switching things up. Maybe start working out, practice a new hobby, expand your knowledge by reading more? anything but staying the same. I know we all love doing nothing and just sit on our phones scroll through social media or watch netflix. But, that doesn’t really do anything to our mental health except damage it. You see people living their best lives and it makes you question your own. You’re not behind in life please remember that. I know social media has driven people into thinking they’re failures when their life hasn’t even begun yet. So try to avoid using your phone because it really affects your mental health and plays with your head.


Everything will happen for you, believe it. You will receive everything you wish for and you’ll be so happy when it happens. One thing i love about being optimistic and positive is having something to look forward to. Like my life right now may not be perfect, but that doesn’t mean it won’t change. That doesn’t mean that i won’t get the things i want from life. One quote that definitely changed my way of thinking was one that i found on pinterest that said “your mind is a powerful thing. When you fill it with positive thoughts, your life will start to change.” Don’t just be kind to others, be kind to yourself. Feed your mind love, whatever you tell yourself you’ll believe it so say some good things about yourself. But take your time, I know it’s a struggle to stay positive but you’ll eventually get there.

Affirm:

I am doing well.

I am valued.

I am cared about.

I am excited about life

I deserve to feel better about myself.

I deserve to have fun with my life.

I am successful at what i do.

I am looking forward to life.

I will live my dreams.

xoxo, L💋

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Living your dream life without fear

I think one of the best things we can experience and feel in life are dreams. A life filled with dreams and aspirations can make us feel inspired and encouraged. Dreams help us move in life and have something to look forward to. I think it’s the most beautiful thing to see people going after their dreams and being passionate about achieving them. Everyone should be doing something that they love, something that fulfills them. I know it’s common to play it safe because you’re scared it’s okay we all get scared especially when we see new opportunities coming to us.


Everyone is always afraid of messing up and failing but you shouldn’t. It’s normal to make mistakes and not get it right the first time it doesn’t make you a loser. You’re putting in the effort and that’s the important part don’t ever underestimate the potential that you have. It’s there you, just have to have faith in yourself, and acknowledge the fact that you are gifted. We all are, we all bring special gifts into this world and you should be using it. Don’t be afraid of a few setbacks, just keep trying and don’t ever think about anyone else’s opinion but your own. People who don’t support you are irrelevant, you are your biggest supporter. Believing in yourself can be life changing, once have faith in yourself and you’re confident nothing and no one can stop you. You are powerful and you must believe that. We always daydream about a life we wish were living but it’s possible to turn it into reality. Nothing can be too big or too small don’t ever limit yourself. Don’t give up on yourself if you’re not seeing results everything will eventually work out in your favor.


Time is the most valuable thing you have, so please don’t waste it on fear. You can shine, you can do all the wonderful things that you dream of. This is your life and you make your own decisions. Take a few risks, don’t start having self doubt or start questioning your abilities because you are talented and you do deserve any great opportunity that comes your way. You can do anything you put your mind to. Whether you want to move to another country, or change your major or write a book or whatever your heart desires do it. Go for it, you deserve to live the life that you want. Don’t be afraid of messing up, just keep trying and trying until you get to where you want to be. Discipline yourself, but take breaks every now and then. You might face a few obstacles here and there but you’ll eventually reach your destination. Remember that everything is in your power, and you have the power to change your whole life.


Affirm:

I am creative.

I am unlimited.

I am supported.

I am intelligent.

I am vibrant.

I am excited.

I am motivated.

I am enlightened.

xoxo, L 💋

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How to channel your inner angel energy

I think with how our society is today we get so caught up in looking and comparing ourselves to other people that we forget about ourselves. We look at people on social media and imagine what it would be like to be them and daydream about it constantly. That’s the biggest mistake anyone could ever make, is not creating the person you want to be, not being the dream girl you always had the potential of being. You should be taking care of yourself, buying the best makeup, wearing the best clothes, taking care of your skin and body. It’s what you deserve. Include a lot of self care in your daily routine, it’s the closest thing to feeling angelic. Just by applying lip gloss or meditating or even writing down in your journal it could help you feel more soft and delicate inside. You should feel like you’re the most ethereal human being on the planet. It’s so important to remember that we’re all special and different in our own way. Comparison is the most toxic thing you could ever do to yourself because you shouldn’t feel like you’re not good enough or pretty enough because you are. It will take time but eventually you’ll realize how beautiful and unique you are. You’ll see the things other people saw in you that you didn’t notice before. Some of them may be your imperfections but that’s okay because we all have them. Some of your biggest insecurities can be seen as the prettiest things of all and that’s what beauty should feel like.

xoxo L💋

IT’S ALL ABOUT YOU

We are so used to worrying about other people think and their opinions that we end up neglecting our own. I mean, think about it how many times have you ever thought about doing something but felt like you didn’t have what it takes? Or felt like you weren’t good enough or pretty enough or smart enough? It’s so tiring. It’s time that you realize that this is YOUR life and you’re going to make YOUR decisions. Regardless of what you do, you’re not going to make everyone happy but what matters the most is what makes you happy. We’ve learned to be giving towards the people that we love but why limit it to just that why shouldn’t you do the same for yourself? Baby it’s your world, you create your own future, go after what you want. You have the potential to be the best, you have to remember that you have what it takes. Do not allow other people’s self doubt and insecurities get to you, there will always be people trying to project their negativity onto you. It’s not your fault, they just have low self esteem and don’t love themselves enough. You should also stop using fear as an excuse, you’re ready, put in all the hard work and you won’t disappoint yourself. Try to do the best you can in whatever situation you have going on right now don’t stress yourself out so much, as long as you’re putting in the effort you’re doing a good job. You have to picture yourself as a dream girl, you’re the girl in those moodboards, you’re gonna be living your best life. See yourself as the most beautiful, most elegant and successful woman that you are. You will be fabulous because honey it’s all about YOU. xoxo L💋